tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post5381021571660774686..comments2023-10-25T16:33:56.428+05:30Comments on MOTIFS ON THE WALL: HeartacheMotifshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298088181053343977noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-60656549713862443312011-12-24T08:31:42.645+05:302011-12-24T08:31:42.645+05:30Pain and parting are messengers, and it is importa...Pain and parting are messengers, and it is important to accept the message and not hold on to the messenger. Although this is an older post, I found it only now through IB, and thought I would share something with you and your readers and of course, your two soul sisters, maybe it is not too late to feel better. This is something that helps in <a href="http://subhorup.blogspot.com/2011/10/dealing-with-stages-steps-of-grief.html" title="grief" rel="nofollow">Coping With People and Change.</a> Hope you find it useful.Subhorup Dasguptahttp://subhorup.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-43377760823883620412011-12-23T19:38:10.868+05:302011-12-23T19:38:10.868+05:30motivational :)motivational :)Abhishek Dudejahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15974561691436552286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-91819600156915422742011-08-17T18:30:09.471+05:302011-08-17T18:30:09.471+05:30Alpana, you are such a loving friend! Your words h...Alpana, you are such a loving friend! Your words have so much power to help and heal. Your loved ones are blessed to have you in their lives. :-) <br /><br />http://lyricfire.typepad.com/lyric-fire/2011/08/lyric-fire-look-at-my-fabulous-life-episode-1-the-wellingtons.htmlTamekahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09022350498501742442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-29497360238836506092011-08-13T19:32:21.696+05:302011-08-13T19:32:21.696+05:30i loved your take on this topic. Extremely good. L...i loved your take on this topic. Extremely good. Like my fellow writer Debra said, to empathize is a true gift. So you have done it with many with this amazing post! Keep penning! Cheers!N Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05838020467882677011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-85439092412641725982011-08-13T09:08:33.183+05:302011-08-13T09:08:33.183+05:30Alpana, what beautiful and wise advice to your fri...Alpana, what beautiful and wise advice to your friends. You are such a wellspring of wisdom and love. Most, having experienced the agony of lost love, can relate. The emptiness is so vast and unrelenting. It’s easy to say, “So get over it already!” But to empathize is a true gift. And you are a blessed gift.Debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02273349436461781371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-7296691498340528782011-08-12T22:49:50.509+05:302011-08-12T22:49:50.509+05:30Breaking up is so hard and sometimes we just canno...Breaking up is so hard and sometimes we just cannot understand what went wrong. Especially after you have invested a lot into the relationship. Over the years I have learnt that it was never meant to be and something better is waiting around the corner. We need to have patience.Nelietahttp://nelietatravellingadventures.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-90400141389593252232011-08-12T21:43:14.650+05:302011-08-12T21:43:14.650+05:30I really enjoyed your very empowering words at the...I really enjoyed your very empowering words at the end, Alpana...a relationship is but one part of our lives, and even within a relationship, we still have to be ourselves, and express who we are through our own personal pleasures and interests. I chose to spend several years out of relationships and really got to know myself and enjoy my own company...and that's something I keep with me forever.<br /><br />Great post! ❤Bec Owenhttp://www.thehappinessgroup.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-44374906420208152752011-08-12T20:45:14.152+05:302011-08-12T20:45:14.152+05:30break-ups teaches us a lot...rightly said 'the...break-ups teaches us a lot...rightly said 'the best revenge is living well'....<br />but it's is a tough path to take...Subhrashis Adhikarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10925822796440985088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-31121730542059782832011-08-12T18:48:01.999+05:302011-08-12T18:48:01.999+05:30Great post ALpana - I do believe it is really diff...Great post ALpana - I do believe it is really difficult to move on in life after a tragedy like a loss of someone you loved - be it death or separation. But you know the crazy thing about life is - it heals you when you are asleep and one day you wake up thinking "I can take this on". I do hope for Rimly and Melissa that this happens soon. I know it will.Kritihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06827714509776261027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-42571343092606648862011-08-12T16:55:49.881+05:302011-08-12T16:55:49.881+05:30I have cried like a baby over all my passed relati...I have cried like a baby over all my passed relationships and will again if it were to happen. Then I will try and seek it out again.<br />Well let me tell you! The term "seek and you will find" is rubbish!! As a love appears when you least expect it. <br />It will come! Pardon the pun.<br /><br />AAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09329408224002887574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-46367191571932630072011-08-12T16:24:08.259+05:302011-08-12T16:24:08.259+05:30When I broke up with my first wife I was devastate...When I broke up with my first wife I was devastated, this was my love and even though I knew it was time I hurt. part was the thought of would I ever find another. Then I received a letter from a women I had known sense childhood. That was 24 years ago, If I knew that she was there I would have left that marriage much sooner. It has been the best 24 years in my life!!! I believe that sometimes we start defining ourselves by our pain. WE almost revel in it. Until it stops you cannot move on!!<br />Great post AlpanaJIMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00989023921093283471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-78264007084215933652011-08-12T16:04:00.361+05:302011-08-12T16:04:00.361+05:30A beautiful tribute to some pretty amazing women b...A beautiful tribute to some pretty amazing women by one herself. Love is the root of all emotions, happy and sad.What you say is so true, love will come again, keep hope alive. Be happy that you loved and maybe that love made you a better person.Thank those who loved you and bless those who left you, if it was meant to be, he wouldn't have gone away.Love will seek you when the time is right...sulekkhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06022718430683943561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-91268942578554913682011-08-12T14:39:06.406+05:302011-08-12T14:39:06.406+05:30When somebody walked awy from my life, i had two c...When somebody walked awy from my life, i had two choices, to mourn their loss asking myself why allowing my life to disintegrate around me, or to accept for my life's purpose to work it's way through there was a reason for it happening. I used this quote to give me strength and keep me out of the spirrling regret and sadness that waas waiting:<br />"When people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you, and it doesn’t mean they are bad people. It just means that their part in your story is over".Larry Lewishttp://www.healthylifestylesblog.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-79821233874622798772011-08-12T14:03:41.155+05:302011-08-12T14:03:41.155+05:30"You broke up for a reason" is a very po..."You broke up for a reason" is a very powerful message and something I always tell people who are heartbroken over the loss of a relationship. You said when someone dies you know they are in a better place... well in a breakup it may not seem like you are in a better place but, you are. When a door closes a window opens. The best thing someone can do for you is to allow you to be free to find someone who is loving, respectful and a perfect match for you. It's an ending because without one there can be no new beginning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-22878135735011015312011-08-12T13:03:29.871+05:302011-08-12T13:03:29.871+05:30Hmmm very well put. I'm sure all of us can ide...Hmmm very well put. I'm sure all of us can identify with that! Yes live well, have fun...you deserve to. Hugs...Swatihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16738935772751436796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-89697796813156025582011-08-12T12:59:58.805+05:302011-08-12T12:59:58.805+05:30Wise words indeed, dearest Alpana. Hugs to three b...Wise words indeed, dearest Alpana. Hugs to three beautiful, loving women who it is a joy to know - you, Rimly and Melissa. The three of you are beautiful both within and outwardly - you have so much to offer and I know there's a special someone for the each of you.Corinne Rodrigueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00127426375705808776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-54289305234672932712011-08-12T11:07:17.563+05:302011-08-12T11:07:17.563+05:30I am already experiencing.....so can't write m...I am already experiencing.....so can't write more.....it's like death of myself..Mohini Puranikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11971969513354282016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-55640456568654739542011-08-12T11:03:33.294+05:302011-08-12T11:03:33.294+05:30You definitely hit the soft spots in my heart. I h...You definitely hit the soft spots in my heart. I heard it thrice that day. I realized that his friend didn't give me hope, my mom disapproved of continuing it and you gave me a way to break free...Perhaps, God was telling me something through all of you.<br /><br />You've journeyed with me through this relationship from fire to heartache... and who, but you, could understand me perfectly...<br /><br />You asked me last night if I was okay... Soul sis,my heart is still weeping but it'll cease... maybe it's even a cry for joy that it has finally decided on what's best for it.<br /><br />I believe that God has something/ someone in store for me...<br /><br />I'll heed that call...it's time to breathe...and enjoy life...<br /><br />I love you a lot...THANK YOU!Melissa Tandochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13747825707650125721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-70373008389951266862011-08-12T11:00:14.354+05:302011-08-12T11:00:14.354+05:30You know all that you have said in this post touch...You know all that you have said in this post touched me deeply. It is not an easy journey moving forward and the only way to do is take baby steps forward, sometimes you move ahead and sometimes you move backwards. But move on you have to and never give up the hope that love will come again. Letting go is very hard but like you said we emerge stronger and once we accept that sometimes things aren't meant to be. Love you Alpana for this eye opener.Rimlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04800381730067608251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-64551433883983370072011-08-12T10:35:47.539+05:302011-08-12T10:35:47.539+05:30good post alpana, if only letting go was simple. W...good post alpana, if only letting go was simple. Why do we have hope?Sukhvinder Kundunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-40445393189178961172011-08-12T10:06:26.204+05:302011-08-12T10:06:26.204+05:30Romanticism of the past is a deadly trap. You are ...Romanticism of the past is a deadly trap. You are so right in everything you said. I have been there, oh boy have I. If I hadn't been there I would not have what I do now. For that I am ever grateful. It hurt beyond words,I can appreciate what I have now, because of that hurt.<br /><br />Wonderful post, thank you.photos by janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931922143998773384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-76197328610845360382011-08-12T09:50:43.542+05:302011-08-12T09:50:43.542+05:30Alpana,
I do so wish they made an on off switch f...Alpana,<br /><br />I do so wish they made an on off switch for feeling. We care and love deeply the reverse side of that when we are "done wrong" by the ones we love is deep pain sorrow the hits us to the core of our souls.<br /><br />But out of this pain I pray we grow stronger and are able to love deeper than before.<br /><br />xoxox<br />JessicaFinding One's Wayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17081354983739087094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8639076133899625777.post-89299526905565154222011-08-12T09:36:29.971+05:302011-08-12T09:36:29.971+05:30Loving and breaking up is part of learning... We l...Loving and breaking up is part of learning... We learn from both experiences... We begin to know what pain is... so we can understand or help another. We learn what love is... so we can love others freely and fully...<br />Enjoyed reading this.Savira Guptahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17463773284421101573noreply@blogger.com