Wednesday, March 16, 2011

MY GIRL


It will be gone before you know it.  The finger prints on the wall appear higher and higher.  Then suddenly they disappear.
                                     
~~DOROTHY EVSLIN
My daughter is a beautiful girl, so are all daughters for their moms. She has always discussed her college life, her friends and her outings with me. Having been educated in a co-educational stream from her kindergarten, boy friends didn't surprise me. She did mention this boy a lot more than any other, but I didn't give it a serious thought. As the calendar showed February 14th, I saw her with different eyes. She returned home that evening, and was bursting with joy, I had a sudden sinking feeling, and things were not going on the way I wanted it to. She hugged me and said that she was in love. I didn't know how to react. Should I be happy, should I feel upset, should I feel let down or how I should feel…..a guy proposing to my daughter on Valentine's Day….


I have still not recovered from her transition, from being a girl, to a young woman. I know that she is no longer a child, but she is not an adult yet either.  I knew she was changing, her body, thoughts, and attitude. This is the reason for the really unpopular rule about how old you need to be before you can date.  I'll be honest.  My aim is to give her away on her wedding day, both physically and emotionally pure.  I know that purity in a marriage will light an intense fire of intimacy and trust with her partner. I may be sounding as if I am coming from another planet, but this is how I feel. As a young woman, in college, I had my share of boyfriends, dates, and always thought I would be this cool Mom, who would accept this easily…as times have changed. My best friends are men, I can relate to them better, then why am I feeling so? Just because it has happened with my daughter?


I love my little girl and I truly want the best for her. That day they handed her to me in the hospital was one of the best days of my life. Every day with her has been a joyful adventure. She has been my best friend, critic, and my greatest support over the years, and I guess the thought of sharing her with someone, is not very appealing to me. I have always tried to provide her with insight into the important things in life in order to make her life as happy and fulfilling as possible. I have always taught her, to enter into a relationship with someone worthy of herself, to love this person unconditionally with her body and mind, and to share all that she has learned in her life with the person, she finally chooses for herself. And the most important thing, never to settle for less, than what you deserve in life.


If I have provided her with an insight into most of these things, then I have succeeded as a mother… in what I hoped to accomplish in raising her, I have a feeling that she knows them anyway, one thing I am sure of though, I have taught her to be proud of the fact that she is a woman equal to all men and, that I have love her every second of my life. I have supported her at all times, as a mother, as a person, and as a friend. I will always continue to cherish and love everything about her, my beautiful daughter. I will always want her to remember that I am hers....Hers To Keep....Forever.


                                                                                                                                                                                    


My daughter is just 12 right now,I have written this,keeping my niece Hansika in mind,who I now consider my first born.

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Labels: Love, daughter, beautiful, woman
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Video: Courtesy YouTube "Every Mother's Dream"



20 comments:

  1. spoken from the heart very beautiful and touching. You both are very lucky.

    May you continue to be blessed


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  2. Every mother wants the best for her child.You love your daughter so much and it shows in every line.Never to settle for less, than what you deserve in life....it's a precious line.She is your daughter, believe me she will choose the best for herself and she will always love you also.After reading this post my respect for you as a woman has increased a lot.Keep writing keep inspiring :D

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  3. Thank you Abhi,your comment has really touched me...just be there for for me always.

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  4. Thank you,Jim...yes,I am lucky to have such wonderful children in my life.

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  5. Beautiful post Alpana! Very heartfelt and honest. I guess I will feel the same exact way when my daughter comes to me and says those dreaded words... its a mixed feeling isn't it. Loved reading this.

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  6. Wow, you covered it all. It is an artist at her craft that can put into words what most can immediately relate. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this. Thanks!

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  7. Absolutely amazing post, Alpana. I had goosebumps while reading your tribute to your daughthers, my niece is my first-born too. loved your post,god bless.

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  8. A mother and daughter's love is one that is treasured and cherish for our lifetimes. Beautifully written, touching and heart warming.. Thank you for sharing with us ...


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  9. beautiful..you have it in you..being the best always.

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  10. Beautiful words Alpu, I can sooo relate to every thing you say. Mine turned 14, and I'm always wondering....Enjoyed reading very much!

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  11. Touched my heart. Your family is so blessed to have you in their life.

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  12. A mother's love for her daughter is something very special and I can imagine the mixed feelings that they can have about their daughters growing up and becoming adults. Beautiful post Alpana.

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  13. Beautiful post Alpana. A mother and daughter can have a real special relationship and it is great when you can friends.

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  14. wonderful..next one on me please...

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  15. The angel of the Family is Woman. Mother, wife, or sister, Woman is the caress of life, the soothing sweetness of affection shed over its toils, a reflection for the individual of the loving providence which watches over Humanity. In her there is treasure enough of consoling tenderness to allay every pain. Moreover for every one of us she is the initiator of the future. The mother's first kiss teaches the child love; the first holy kiss of the woman he loves teaches man hope and faith in life; and love and faith create a desire for perfection and the power of reaching towards it step by step; create the future, in short, of which the living symbol is the child, link between us and the generations to come. Through her the Family, with its divine mystery of reproduction, points to Eternity.
    Giuseppe Mazzini
    That's you..A WOMAN OF SUBSTANCE....

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  16. Such a beautiful write up dear....so pure and full of love....absolutely enjoyed reading it.....

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  17. @Kriti...Thank u,and yes,daughters have that effect on you..
    @Doubler702...Thanks a lot,Ricky,you are the first to actually call me an artist...love it.
    @Sulekha...Thank u...My niece feels that I am doing injustice..to Aishani..

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  18. Just so beautifully written,Alpana.Both your daughter and your niece are so lucky to have you around and vice versa.

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  19. @whatstruckme...Thanks a lot..yes,I will never be lonely.

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