BITTERSWEET STRINGS....

                                   


Don’t we all come into this world as seekers, constantly striving to find the role of a successful rapport with everyone and everything we are connected with? The world seems to be constantly echoing with disconcerting chorus of voices, the result of frustrated relationships between parents and children, husbands and wives, friends, siblings, employees and colleagues. From birth to death, a person’s success or failure is often associated with the kind of relationships he has had, with the elements of this world….nature, people and beyond it all. To have perfect relationships can sometimes be the hardest nut to crack.

Due to the phenomenal changes in every sphere of our lives since the last century….the definitions of human relationships have changed….Where now a good relationship is not one that just lasts, but one that co-exists with self respect, trust, individuality and the need to grow. If a relationship you are in, is not giving you peace and tranquility, and there isn’t any possibility of things getting better, then you are in an impossible relationship.

As the universe is instantiated in human form, a key purpose of our lives is to form relationships with human beings. We form various kinds of relationships in order to satisfy our needs for love, companionship, security, stimulation, sexual fulfilment, financial security, and so on.

 I believe, every relationship we are in serves a definite purpose in life….it fulfils our needs as well as the needs for someone else. Worrying about the future, whether in a relationship or anything related to life, is not in our control. Yes, what we can have hold over, is our thoughts, emotions and responses. So, whether you are in a working environment, with friends or family, one can try to acknowledge the other person as an individual….in a conflicting relationship, try and find out where you went wrong, instead of looking for faults in the other person….with communication playing a major factor.

 Children feel closer to parents who treat them like adults and  listen to them more than those who rule by fear. When you treat them like friends, they will confide everything in you and it will make them feel closer to you…. protecting them from outside influences that maybe attractive but can get them into trouble.

A healthy romantic relationship is about two independent people choosing to becoming partners in the journey of life, for as long as it works for them….enjoy it assuming that the partner you have chosen, and who has chosen you is giving you sense of security and stability…..both working towards it….love, care, respect, honour, trust and knowing each another’s limitations will be the foundation of a strong relationship.

Not every relationship between a man and a woman has to end with a ‘ring’…..not even the romantic ones. Life is all about seasons, changing all the time. You are the real thing….discovering love, respect and acceptance is required for ourselves, before giving it to anyone. Lack of self awareness and self love can be detrimental to any person as well as the relationship

 Our ‘ring’ obsessed culture has forgotten that the journey can often be far valuable than the destination, down the aisle. Today, when 50% of marriages are ending in divorce, it is unfair to teach children that all relationships are supposed to last forever. It is not true that when you fall in love with somebody, or find the right person, you will live happily ever after.

 Basically, what I am trying to say is that enjoy every relationship you are in, without thinking what will happen, or what may happen. By stating ‘a healthy relationship’ I mean, when you feel good about yourself when being around with your loved ones or the people you interact with on a regular basis, and there is an equal amount of give and take…..feeling safe, trusting with secrets, and evolve in his or her ability to be both themselves and each other.

"It is easy for me to have a relationship with God, I know I can trust him.....to be there, to do the right thing, to love me....And it is easy for me to have a relationship with me....I know I can trust me.....Not to be perfect, but to keep growing in that direction. And when I find somebody else I can trust, I have a great foundation for a loving relationship." -Justin Timberlake

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