Tuesday, January 11, 2011

SISTERS.....MY SISTER, ANILA...YOU WILL ALWAYS BE HERE...FOREVER


Ask any woman who has a sister and she'll tell you that neither girlfriends nor husband-much as she adores them-can take the place of her sister. Who else has the same family history from the female perspective? Who else shares the same values and expectations, shaped since babyhood? Who else knows what's racing around in her head almost before she herself does…. No one, but her sister.
Every relationship is unique, and the bond between sisters is very special. Even if circumstances create distance in miles or emotions, sisters have a distinct capacity to regain the connection and kinship that defines what sisterhood really means. 
I am truly blessed with sisters who are like mother figures in my life. No matter what happens between us….we are close knit as a sorority of three, or as tumultuous as a tropical storm…we maintain a unique way of sharing and caring. They are my greatest source of emotional and practical support, I can always cry on their shoulders and at same time, socialize, party and shop. Of the many relationships I have in life, my affinity with my sisters is beautiful, stretching and bending through periods of closeness and distance, but never breaking. There are few emotional knots, which every other relationship might have….they are my girlfriends, rivals, shopping buddies, confidents, and so on. It’s as if I almost don't know who I am without asking who she is….It is like your sister is you and not you.

We have had to wade through pain, misunderstandings, bitterness and failures, to grow closer, become stronger and forge unbreakable bonds. My sisters love me straight from the heart, no matter how much we argue, we cannot be drawn apart. They are my very existence, which cannot be separated from me....ever since the day I have entered into their lives. 
People work at relationships with spouses, partners, and children, but they don’t always think they have to work on their relationships with their siblings, some sisters are fortunate, and they have an easy relationship. But for those who don’t, or when problems come up, they need to remember that every close attachment has conflicts. If they value the relationship, there’s a real incentive to work it out. I think sisters can make up, and they’re happier when they do…. It’s worth the effort.  
These funny, joyful, angry, painful and historic memories creates the foundation, solid or shaky on which relationships rests. We are linked by our past, our kinship and our intimate knowing of each other, all of which leads to our parents, for whom the bond between us is most important. Though I have put our relationship through cloudy days, you both have still stood by me through my trials and tests, reaching out to me always. My gratitude for you has no end, what you mean to me, is more than I can express. 
We three sisters, are in this world because of two wonderful people….Mummy and Papa….to whom we owe our strong family values. I love you both and I know I am loved by you. We are not always together, but are in each others hearts…we have gone through all kinds of troubles…which never seem to leave us, but somehow we have made it. I have been blessed to have such a great family support system, or else I would have given up a long time back. This is a small way of showing you both, what you mean to me….I may have become a loner, but believe me, today I need you more than ever....I feel I am  a child, starting my life all over again, and who better can help me grow other than you two.... I can’t think of living my life without you.

To the outside world we all grow old. But not to brothers and sisters.  We know each other as we always were. We know each other's hearts.  We share private family jokes.  We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys.  We live outside the touch of time.  ~Clara Ortega


When I wrote this post,I never in my wildest dreams thought that my sister will not be with me....so I can never ever associate her with someone from the past,she is here with me....now and always.



Anila said...

Alpu, this is the biggest gift u have ever given me...I always knew that I had a special place in your heart....but this has really made me sob....I will always be there for you no matter what....I wish you world of happiness.....I love you tons!!!


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 Labels: Sisters, bond, love,joy
In these pictures: Alka, Anila, Alpana

22 comments:

  1. the youngest of the lot and so much to say,wow

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  2. that's true ...written very nicely gr8 :)

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  3. Alpu ur the best..:) very well written sweetheart, I can so well connect to this as we r 4.... I do share some if not all .....all the best sweetheart..wish u and ur sis all the best in life....

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  4. Very well articluated...lovely !

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  5. That was a wonderful post Alpana !! It hit home because we are three sisters as well: me being the eldest!!! There are times when my siblings get on my nerves but then I realize that each of us has an individual personality and that is what clashes! But we cannot stay upset forever,right! I don't know how it is possible, but my second sister always hits the nail on it's head; be it if I am talking to some interesting guy that she is totally unaware of, or if she meets the guy and within minutes she figures out that he's going to break my heart or if I am lying about something she says " I know you're lying coz you're nose is twitching"!
    But we aren't the emotional kind where I cry my heart out to them and neither do they : but we know we're hurting! It's amazing to know you're felt and understood without having to utter a word or shed a tear!

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  6. Lovely.....cheers to sisterhood!!

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  7. Nice, lovely post. Although I do not have a sister, I am blessed to have many cousins with whom I love to share time, whenever I can. Thank you for writing about sisterly emotions. :)

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  8. Beautiful ALpana! I can so associate with your write up - I can't imagine my life without her... Don't tell her that often but your piece has inspired me to do that now. Thanks!

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  9. Amazing..you have actually left me spell bound...congratulations.

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  10. Mishtu GuhathakurtaJanuary 12, 2011 at 1:09 AM

    Alpana- what a beutiful tribute!! I dont have a sister of my own and until this moment I never really yearned for one as I didnt know their value..its like you dont know what something is like till u 'taste' it..but after reading this really lucid and beautiful tribute to your sisters..I caan say now that I really wish I had one. You are truely blessed as not every sibling share such a wonderful and unconditional relationship..You must stand proud today and never worry about tomorrow as you have rightly said 'the world seems to be safer' with your sis around you...God bless

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  11. After reading your lovely post, I called up my sister and told her how much I love her. You have captured the essence of sisterhood my friend.Beautiful post Alpana......

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  12. Thankyou so very much Alpu...you coildn't have given me anything better today, on the 12th January 2011, Papa's 75th b'day. I read it today and I am overwhelmed. I was feeling lost and lonely thinking about Papa, but I am now feeling that he is here, a little bit in each of us...it is for us to find him and our unity will keep him here with us ...fo ever. Sisters never say 'thankyou', 'sorry', or 'please'. Such is our bonding...and no one can break this. We are always with you...koi shak..


    or 'please' ...such is our bonding and our

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  13. BEAUTIFUL,I AGREE WITH YOU TOTALLY!!!

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  14. Your sisters have and will be been your friends for life, your writing shows it,so do the pictures....You are lucky to have them.

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  15. Alpu, this is the biggest gift u have ever given me...I always knew that I had a special place in your heart....but this has really made me sob....I will always be there for you no matter what....I wish you world of happiness.....I love you tons!!!

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  16. Beautifully put together a relations between sisters and their bonding.. God Bless

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  17. Anila.. your sister's blog is absolutely heart touching.... lovely reading... take care ..

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  18. hmm very nicely written..and yes bonding btwn siblings is a divine gift...treasure them....and i am sure nana will bless all of u all the time!!!

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  19. and i know u love ur sisters a lot..but maybe u wud want to show this extra special love for ur 2 very special neices as well!!!! :-) : p

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  20. Thank you everyone, it really feels good to be appreciated...

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  21. A very nice read. Touching. Great snaps. Well done Alpana.

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  22. Hi Alpana -

    Your post is amazingly loving, kind, and tender. I wish I felt similar feelings with my brother and sisters. I do love them very much with all my heart but we are not close in my view. They never call me and I never call them. Once in a while, a sister will need me to help here and I am there immediately to perform what ever she needs me to do. It's no uncommon for me to go a week without making a telephone call or receiving an inbound call. It's just the way that it is here for me.

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your buddy, your sister. Gratefully, you have another sister that you came bond with and share the joys of the life the 3 of you once lived. As you said in another post, death doesn't end the relationship. Those are fantastic words and words to live by. God Bless you and your family. :)

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