MY GIRL

It will be gone before you know it.  The finger prints on the wall appear higher and higher.  Then suddenly they disappear.
                                     

~~DOROTHY EVSLIN

My daughter is a beautiful girl, so are all daughters for their moms. She has always discussed her college life, her friends and her outings with me. Having been educated in a co-educational stream from her kindergarten, boy friends didn't surprise me. She did mention this boy a lot more than any other, but I didn't give it a serious thought. As the calendar showed February 14^th, I saw her with different eyes. She returned home that evening, and was bursting with joy, I had a sudden sinking feeling, and things were not going on the way I wanted it to. She hugged me and said that she was in love. I didn't know how to react. Should I be happy, should I feel upset, should I feel let down or how I should feel…..a guy proposing to my daughter on Valentine's Day….

I have still not recovered from her transition, from being a girl, to a young woman. I know that she is no longer a child, but she is not an adult yet either.  I knew she was changing, her body, thoughts, and attitude. This is the reason for the really unpopular rule about how old you need to be before you can date.  I'll be honest.  My aim is to give her away on her wedding day, both physically and emotionally pure.  I know that purity in a marriage will light an intense fire of intimacy and trust with her partner. I may be sounding as if I am coming from another planet, but this is how I feel. As a young woman, in college, I had my share of boyfriends, dates, and always thought I would be this cool Mom, who would accept this easily…as times have changed. My best friends are men, I can relate to them better, then why am I feeling so? Just because it has happened with my daughter?

I love my little girl and I truly want the best for her. That day they handed her to me in the hospital was one of the best days of my life. Every day with her has been a joyful adventure. She has been my best friend, critic, and my greatest support over the years, and I guess the thought of sharing her with someone, is not very appealing to me. I have always tried to provide her with insight into the important things in life in order to make her life as happy and fulfilling as possible. I have always taught her, to enter into a relationship with someone worthy of herself, to love this person unconditionally with her body and mind, and to share all that she has learned in her life with the person, she finally chooses for herself. And the most important thing, never to settle for less, than what you deserve in life.

If I have provided her with an insight into most of these things, then I have succeeded as a mother… in what I hoped to accomplish in raising her, I have a feeling that she knows them anyway, one thing I am sure of though, I have taught her to be proud of the fact that she is a woman equal to all men and, that I have love her every second of my life. I have supported her at all times, as a mother, as a person, and as a friend. I will always continue to cherish and love everything about her, my beautiful daughter. I will always want her to remember that I am hers....Hers To Keep....Forever.

                                                                                                                                                                                    

My daughter is just 12 right now,I have written this,keeping my niece Hansika in mind,who I now consider my first born.

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