FIRST LOVE

People say that we never forget our first love and feelings will always remain. Remember your first love? Do you still have feelings towards him/her? Does it go away with time? For me, it never has, and will never be…. 
There's nothing like the first love. You've never had these feelings before and you imagine that no one else has ever felt this way about anybody. Your man or woman is the greatest thing that has happened and you want to be with them all the time. Your senses become alive as you fall in love for the first time. You're not even thinking of the possibility that you may break up because that has never happened to you before. First love is filled with the optimism that you will be together forever.
Love is difficult to define. How do you avoid confusing it with infatuation or lust? Philosophers and psychologists have attempted to define love, at least its difference from infatuation and lust. But can one truly define what love is without experiencing it? Not even an experienced person can truly grasp or explain love to its truest and deepest meaning. Its concepts are just a never ending story of an open book of experiences. But love does lie in one's heart, where memories are but shadows lingering in your soul. Love is giving someone the power to break your heart, but trusting them not to.

I always believe that my first love is my last, and my last love will be my first. Falling in love is the most natural and the least harmless kind of drug like effect. Yes, it’s not a mural, it never looks in the future, in fact it may have no future but it gives life some spirit of freshness and youthfulness. Falling in love is a strong instinctive attraction to the person of the other sex. And there is nothing like it if it’s mutual and both lovers will work at their relationship, that one day the feeling can grow into love. 

My first love has a part of my heart that no one will ever have. We dated for a very short period, and then what I felt was not in the true sense “love”, and we then decided that being friends were better for us. But to remember my first love…I felt euphoric, couldn't stop smiling, my mind was totally focused on him, and I couldn't wait until I heard from him again. I used to get this warm fuzzy feeling all over, and nothing else seemed to matter. I enjoyed this feeling; embraced it, because it only happens ONCE. You'll remember your "first love" for the rest of your life. I am happy today, to know him all over again, we don’t talk as much as we want to, because of the moves and changes that we both have made, he will always be considered my best friend, no matter where we are or where we go. We have been through relationships, hate, anger, love and everything in between. I suppose you don’t just throw that away if you are ever lucky enough to have it once again. It feels amazing, well it gives a comfortable feeling. It's just that I can feel I can be myself around him….bare my soul to him. Sure, we two may fuss and fight and times say bad things about each another, but at the end of the day, neither of us wants to go on carrying a stupid grudge. I may not talk on the phone every single day but when I do, it's like I fall in love with him, over and over again.

Although both of us have tried.... we have realized that somewhere, sometime, we might have some kind of a future together, after all we have been friends for 20+ years....Falling in love is crazy, it very physical, it’s when knees are getting weak and temperature rises, love is calm, comfortable feeling….and thankfully I have experienced both. 

My dear friend Maria mentioned that "there CAN'T BE any relation among human beings if it is not founded on FRIENDSHIP.....friendship is the very first STEP of every human relationship = mutual understanding, feelings,warmth, sweetness, reliability.....these are the very basis of every good human relation..:!! ♥♥♥"


                                                       A friend is someone we turn to 
                                                      when our spirits need a lift,
                                                    A friend is someone we treasure,
                                                   for our friendship is a gift.
                                                 A friend is someone who fills our lives
                                                with beauty, joy, and grace
                                              And makes the whole world we live in
                                             a better and happier place....By Maria Angela Manente

Why is your first love the hardest relationship to get over? Not solely is it onerous but you carry those reminiscences of your past love with you for the remainder of you life. It doesn’t matter in the event you’re in is a brand new relationship or it’s ten years later, for some purpose the relationship you shared together with your first love will be the memories you share with your youngsters if they should ever ask, who was your first love. You can be extremely pleased in a brand new relationship and run into an ex from your past and it isn’t an enormous deal, however for those who run into your past love, you get these butterflies in your stomach that you just want would just go away. It can get disturbing that this particular person still has that impact on you. People who have moved on from their past love can agree that the feelings we had for our past love, we will never really feel again for some other person.

They don’t name first love for nothing. You never hear about your second love or your third love and it is as a result of you possibly can fall in love again however it should never be like your first love. What is so wonderful about the feelings and emotions you are feeling in your first love is that it’s the first time ever experiencing love, the primary time to simply be head over heels about a person, the primary time to essentially care about a person more than you do yourself.

Love is a complicated thing, but love can mean a lot of things to people. Look inside your heart, and think with your brain. It can be love if you were in love with that person, or if you are just thinking about the sex part, than it is something else. I know that if a person has a first love or that person they just always thought was the one, than it's hard to let go. Lot's of people have feelings for their ex, it's normal. It not just one person that we can fall for in love, with in the world, there are many, just be happy to find that one and keep it close to your heart. Don't get lust or love confused, if you're thinking about that person and miss him being around, than its love. 

Relationships go through three stages of love: the initial feelings of lust or romantic feelings, physical attraction, and finally a deeper emotional attachment. Reaching the final stage of love isn't just about luck …its unconditional acceptance of each another. Love isn't just a vehicle that brings happiness and contentment to your life (or bitterness and pain!). Love is a living, dynamic creature that changes, grows, and needs attention, and you must nurture it. In all three stages of love, your love reveals who you really are, in all your glory and weakness. All stages of love can help you accept your strengths and weaknesses. You are my life, you are the only thing I would hate to loose, I promise to love you forever....each and everyday of forever....after all, what is more important in the end, than love?

"The first time you fall in love, it changes your life forever, And no matter how hard you try, The feelings never go away"….By Numiii

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